I know some people think life starts at 30 but I would disagree. I think by the time you turn 30 most people have gone through enough life situations, learned lessons and gained wisdom to make the next decade even better. Then again, I’ve know people who have gone through more hard situations in a year than most have gone through by 30.
I would say the last two and a bit years is where I’ve learned the most and I’ll get to that a later. First, let’s talk about my birthday party 😀
Even though this year was a milestone birthday, I didn’t want to do much let alone plan anything. There were a few reasons behind that but luckily I had a dear friend named Rosie that pushed me to do something. On my actual birthday I went for dinner with four close girlfriends to a gnocchi bar and it was phenomenal. Our gnocchi was served out of a parmesan wheel and it felt like tiny pillows in my mouth. LOL! I also ordered a cake from my favourite Melbourne baker, Proof is in the Pudding, which was mud chocolate, Ferrero Rocher combination, and to top it all off, the whole restaurant even sang happy birthday to me!
Fast-forward two weeks and I held my actual birthday party organised by Rosie. I just had about 12 girls over and set up a party in the outdoor common area. It was a riot! First we couldn’t get the bbq to work so there was six girls gathered around fiddling with this thing, another is on google trying to find the manual, another calling her husband… it was absolutely hilarious! We eventually got it to work and it was such a beautiful night! I couldn’t imagine not celebrating with these people.
Now I wasn’t going to do a list of things I’ve learned, but I thought it might be fun and a good reflection exercise. In no particular order, this is what I’ve learned and what God has been teaching me and I’m taking all these lessons into the next decade to create even more stories. I chose to do 27 things because I like the number 27 and I actually couldn’t think of 30. Haha!
- Be unapologetically you.
- Learn to say no.
- Live in the moment. Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to capture everything on Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat that we forget to just be present. It’s not a bad thing to disconnect from social media every once in awhile.
- Just because it worked out one way for someone doesn’t mean that’s the case for you. There is no ‘one-size fits all’ approach to life and your journey will look different from everyone else’s.
- If a door closes don’t try to break it down. What God has set apart for you will be for you. You won’t have to force anything to happen. (Side note: this doesn’t mean you won’t work hard in life it’s just to say you will never have to lie, cheat or do anything dishonest to get what has been set apart for you).
- People will treat you the way you let them. So learn to respect yourself and keep that standard when interacting with people.
- Learn when to speak and when to listen.
- When God says go, just go. He has it all figured out so you don’t have to know all the answers or the outcome. Just trust Him.
- Let prayer be your first response. Whether you’re grateful or need answers.
- Enjoy the journey. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
- Know the difference between seasonal friends and lifelong friends.
- There is always sunshine after the rain. Even in the darkest moments I’ve had and thought there was no way I’d be ok, or come back from it, I always have (Praise God).
- There is power is saying hello to strangers. I know this because half my friends are people I struck up conversations with.
- Be grateful. Every. single. day. If you’re struggling to find something to be grateful for, start by thanking God for waking you up!
- There is nothing wrong with being single. I find others are more concerned with my relationship status than I am. I don’t talk about my relationship status because that’s only one aspect of my life and not the most important. Knowing me I’ll finally share a picture with my husband on our fifth wedding anniversary. #Petty. LOL!
- Not everyone gets an explanation for the decisions I make.
- Forgive, and do it often.
- The only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
- Comparison is the thief of joy. Learn to be content with your portion in life
- Sometimes you need to just take treat yourself to a cupcake (and make no apologies for it).
- Say what you mean and mean what you say. People aren’t mind readers nor should it be an expectation. Also, let your words have weight and integrity. That means if you say you’re going to do something, do it. I’m striving to be the type of person where my words carry so much weight, people will never second guess what I say.
- Don’t wait until the new year to make something new. Start today. No more of this ‘new year, new me’ jargon. There is no better time than the present to make a change.
- Life is hard, the struggle is real, but so is Jesus. (Deuteronomy 31:6; Psalms 37:28; Hebrews 13:5; Matthew 28:20)
- If it won’t matter in eternity then don’t sweat it. This takes care of 98% of life’s worries.
- Love people with no strings attached. Especially those who don’t deserve it. If God can love me in the midst of my sin then surely I can love that person that tests my patience.
- Sometimes life is unfair and there is no explanation. I always strive to have God’s supernatural peace in my life (Philippians 4:6-7) but I’ll never get there unless I give up my right to understand.
- I’m not perfect. I have hard days, I have my own struggles and have moments that are not Christ-like. God has been gracious to correct, guide, give wisdom and love me back to who he’s molding me to be. I’m so thankful for that.